Blogs, journals, diaries by folks engaged in some aspect of M/f D/s, DD as lifestyle or play

A remarkably good BDSM blog. In this excerpt slave writes about a controversial view of BDSM that is difficult for many people to even begin to think about clearly:

I don’t want and can’t do a vanilla relationship. I need that distance, the formality and the respect that comes with bdsm. I need the Master/Dom/Male father figure. It’s good for me and I need to know my place…even when I am domming I can still have that ’sub’ part of me in check but it’s still there.

Master said that getting too close makes it hard and he was spot on. So we have to go back and I need to create distance. Be more respectful, expect more guidance and to take it. Be told to do more and do so, not resist it.

A Life of Two Lives…

I’ve often wondered how many blogs are lost to their true potential audience by being buried on alt.com and bondage.com.

Our Ruinous Love is a good deal more than merely a weblog but that is the only part that matters here. Happily the authors tell us about themselves and their presentation of their story:

This blog started almost two years ago, on Alt.com. During our time there, we told you about our sex life, our deviant desires, our amazing love story, our failures and disappointments, and our good days too. I shared my music and poetry, and MY LOVE talked about new, exciting personal discoveries. We were both honest and humble, and I think those are just a couple of good reasons why we had so many “watchers” - so many fans. We also told you, in unabashed, vulgar detail about our sexual activities - some of which went to the extreme. Many of you liked what you read and eagerly came back for more. Some of you were probably shocked, even appalled by what you read, but you came back anyways. To see if we would top ourselves or go too far… to see if we were real… to see…

We must say: “Welcome Back” to all of you who were around during that time. You gave us confidence, constructive feedback, and a much-needed audience. What you will find here, now, is the same quality - the same honesty - of writing that you did before. Only now, we don’t have to worry about being CENSORED by Alt.com!

To those of you who are new: There is so much to read - so much ground to cover. I’ve tried to put some story-strings in categories, so that if you find yourself interested in reading about something specific, you can isolate those posts. Just check out the categories at the right. Our love story is intense, and certainly unique. There’s drama, there’s obsession, and there’s divorce. Both the SEX and Depravity categories will leave you sweaty and aroused, while the posts by MY LOVE: will leave you thinking. There’s plenty to read about my time working in Porn Shops, Rants about nothing in particular, and even some Funny Stuff. Pretty soon you’ll be able to read about the crazy life we lead as porn producers when we get to ORL inc. All of it is honest, and real, and we’re just getting started.

Our Ruinous Love Blog

Sadly the text and background colors have so little contrast that I find the pages almost unreadable myself. Nonetheless the site is highly recommended. The elasticity, richness and variety of kink and fetish or whatever words you want to use for atypical sexuality can never be over-stressed.

Funny how different this is between M/f and F/m couples. Many submissive men go on and on about how good chastity is for them. Women tend to be either more realistic or honest:

This is one part of BDSM I HATE.

Indeed:

Orgasms are good for people. I think people should have as many orgasms as they can. I don’t think it’s healthy to be denied orgasm. I really don’t know if I can handle this. I had sex with Davey and that wasn’t enough, luckily when I asked MasterDoc permission to masturbate I was granted it. The magic wand helped but I still feel like utter shit about this, like I’m not strong enough to be a good sub. Having him deliberately make me feel this horrible just makes me feel like I’ve been really, really bad. This whole thing makes me feel horrible.

Diary of a Kinky Librarian

Blogs about men in enforced chastity regimens are common. But not those about women undergoing orgasm denial.

From the about page:

This site is dedicated to the art of female orgasm denial. There are many sites on the web about orgasm denial for male subs, but information about female orgasm denial is hard to find. This website should fill the gap and provide webteases and other teasing techniques for female subs and their masters and mistresses.

Female Orgasm Denial

Constance makes a point that can never be repeated too often:

People who don’t know better sometimes assume that the woman in a male-led relationship is somehow a victim. Instead, we are on the receiving end of the love, guidance and assistance of really wonderful men who are motivated by their desire to fulfill their responsibilities, while nurturing and protecting the women they love. Those of us who are in Domestic Discipline relationships are also on the receiving end of spankings, but that’s a choice we have made for ourselves. (If it isn’t consensual, it’s not Domestic Discipline.)

My Dabble in the Middle End