Blogs, journals, diaries by folks engaged in some aspect of M/f D/s, DD as lifestyle or play

Peter Tupper’s blog focuses on his ongoing project, a history of fetish and kink culture:

Beauty in Darkness: the history of BDSM

Originally posted 2006-08-21 15:05:56.

A little off topic for this site but an interesting instance of a virtual BDSM relationship in Second Life:

“I accept your submission to me in front of the witnesses that have gathered here today,” Kasmodian said, “and let it be known on this day that I have accepted you as mine, that I will honor the gift you have given to me and fulfill all your needs. In front of the witnesses that have gathered here today, I place my collar around your neck as a binding symbol of unity between a master and his submissive, a collar that no other shall own nor command, a collar that will signify the fact that I will protect, honor, respect and cherish you for the days to come. With this collar I do bind you to me in submission, and let it be known that I am Kasmodian Nephilim, Master to Emily Darrow.

You may collar the submissive

Originally posted 2006-05-31 02:26:06.

Another gratuitous pulp illustration with a BDSM theme:

Originally posted 2008-12-25 11:00:49.

Spiral Submissive writes about the nature and role of humilation:

The purpose of humiliation is not to harm or injure the sub, but rather make her stronger in a safe way. Humiliation can be a tool to let her explore herself outside social constructs. This happens because the sub has put herself in the Dom’s hands, and trusts him to take care and not harm her. Before humiliation can happen, that trust needs to be solid. The Dom needs to feel that he knows the sub well enough that he won’t take her into a harmful place, such as unwittingly unearthing a mental harm (such as abuse) that will make the sub feel hurt and her trust broken.

If the Dom wishes to humiliate his sub, he needs to discuss it with her to make sure that she fully understands what is expected, and to makes sure that there isn’t a glaring negative response that arises. If this does happen, it needs to be explored in a context other than humiliation.

Humiliation can happen anywhere, around anyone. What matters is the sub’s reaction, her embarrassment, the realization of the act, and what really happens when she is forced to do something that she feels is embarrassing. However, if the humiliation is happening around others, they either have to be fully aware of what is happening (such as being around other D/s couples) or be unaware of the sub’s embarrassment.

Out of humiliation, a sub can gain a better understanding of her true nature, of the power that she has given over, and of the relationship that she has with her Dom. The Dom can have a better understanding of his sub.

Spiral Submissive

Originally posted 2006-06-22 14:37:56.

An interesting Spankophile blog. The extract is from an entry on obedience.

Obedience is in doing what a girl truly rather wouldn’t – bending over and putting her elbows on the bed when he has the belt in his hand; facing the wall in the hateful corner but a little glad because she can’t bear to meet his baleful gaze; keeping still as possible and making herself as small as possible when he puts that nasty thermometer where it’s got no business going.

Such are the forms of obedience. Whether or not the form has substance depends on a variety of factors – the individuals, the situation, the ethos, the morals, whether a birch rod and a peeled ginger root happen to be involved.

Obedience and compliance are two sides of the same coin, and it is up to each Top and Bottom whether it lands head or tail, and I’ll leave you to make your own pun on tail. The key to being a good Top is to persevere, to be persistent and consistent, and to have patience.

Devlin O’Neill’s Weblog

Originally posted 2009-10-24 16:23:55.

An extract from one of boundmuse’s passionate stories:

“Punish me?” She whispered those magic words, the innocent sounding phrase barely escaping those pouting, glossy lips.

Two little words, so simple, but enough to make my pulse jump, my cock rouse and begin to stiffen. Two words that when spoken just so, were like a shock of electricity that went right down my spine, making me sit up straight in my seat. Those were the words that made me want to grab her by the front of her shirt or even by the throat. The words that filled my mind with images of her upturned ass and her cheeks wet with tears. I could almost hear her moaning, crying, and begging me to stop.

Even then, even when she was trembling and weak over my lap, some part of her, some small part of her didn’t want me to stop. Not until I was finished. Not until I told her that she had taken enough. Not until the act had redeemed her of bad deeds and she was once again my ‘good girl’.

Sitting across from me, she was tense. Her posture strained, she was trying to relax but truly she was stiff in her seat. I could see that her foot was twitching, on one foot the heels she wore were half hanging off her little foot, only secured by her stocking clad toes.

Leaning forward, I rested my arms on my knees and clasp my hands together. Subtly she attempted to lean back but found the chair’s stiff back offered her no room to do so, her hands sliding up and down the arms of her seat in a slow caress.

“Why should I?” I asked. This was the part she hated, the part she needed more than perhaps the spanking itself. This was the act of confession, the giving in and the telling of dirty deeds. There could be no penance without confession.

boundmuse

Originally posted 2006-09-21 05:47:39.

Kitten shares her insight into some of the problems of beginning a poly relationship:

A new sub or slave invariably will resent an older sub/slaves presence, it can and often does make her feel inferior so she will say things, pass on information she has no right to, do things, mention things in various places knowing it will be read just to make herself look good and ‘more’ than another, all this will do is serve to make all involved in the relationship realise just how childish that one is being. We all have things to say and we all know parts of our Dom or Masters life, it is a sign of strength and maturity knowing that a sub or slave is just that, she has no right to spread her Dom or Masters business around to others, there is something called respect and if a sub or slave does not respect her Dom or Master, then how can another sister trust her with anything that is going on in their life ?

Akittenone’s Weblog

Originally posted 2009-01-10 12:07:09.