Category — By Men

Irch writes of his amazing online relationship with k:

Have you ever had (I hope you all have had) that experience of pristine sublimity in lovemaking when you swear time is standing still, the earth has stopped turning, the stars are aswim in the sky? That kind of time-stoppage is something I never thought could be achieved in a long-distance online relationship. But turns out you just need to be with the right woman.

The reason this has all come up is that I haven’t had any time online with my delicious k in a number of days now. She’s just moved into a new place and is working on getting her internet hooked up. I was out of town for the whole weekend and pretty preoccupied during that time. We’ve kept in touch with a few phone messages and texts, and I miss her. I crave the intensity of the times when we are online together. But this time, unlike any previous times that we’ve been apart like this, I am completely assured and unanxious, confident. I feel our bond, our connection, as strong and steady as ever.

She belongs to me, always. I know her heart and mind are as full of me as mine are of her. My ownership of her, and the difference I make in her life, don’t diminish or alter over time. If a couple thousand miles don’t change things, why should a few days?

Dominant Seventh

Originally posted 2006-05-27 08:20:36.

Extreme Owner does not mince words. Here he explains dealing with disappointment in his property:

But this morning, my military training and ability to project came to play – I had to verbally slap her with the words of my disappointment, my wishes and my end of tolerance for the actions. I could see her reel from the words and she silently went upstairs to get dressed for work.

What happened next is, in my opinion, one of the crucial aspects of Ownership. How to bring my property back to me once I’ve done major correction. I believe there’s a tendency to either persist a correction or to overreact and oversoothe after correction. It’s a fine line – the goal of bringing back is to establish that I’m done with the situation, that she is not worthless or completely useless – that yes, she fucked up, but that I know she will do better next time, because she will. The positive reinforcement is like a drink of the coldest water after a long walk in the hottest deserts – it sets in concrete her mindset that she WILL obey, she WILL make me happy.

Mindset, always the mindset, is key. What do I want? My property to do my wishes. How do I get to that point? By correction and direction. My girl left this morning with firm resolve, and I could see it.

An extreme owner of women

Originally posted 2006-10-22 13:18:39.

An early post of Dave’s captures the uncertain moments many of us who engage in loving D/s have:

Confession time, when Am & I started out with experimenting with kinky sex again a couple of years ago, it took me a very long time to get past the feeling that it was wrong and that I shouldn’t have the sort of desires that I was having. This was because of an initial experiment with BDSM with Am at a point when neither of us were really emotionally ready for it, and I pushed her limits far too far and far too quickly. It almost wrecked our marriage, and it took a long time for me to be able to look at that side of my sexuality again and not feel a mixture of remorse, guilt and deep shame.

I still have a nagging voice in my head that spanking her to dispel bad feelings at the start of a row to stop it escalating and let us talk “is just domestic abuse”, even though it’s something that she initially requested and we both want to do! I guess that while I have no problem caning or spanking her in play, I have a lifelong conditioning that “you do not raise your hand to a woman” to work through when it comes to applying my “Head of Household” role to stopping a row.

“Randomness” – Dave’s kinky blog

Originally posted 2006-05-18 07:40:02.

Normally I look for something more introspective or relationship-oriented to quote. But this by CLoud is too good to skip:

… She wants to be able to through a temper tantrum but sill hold the respect of her subs and others. Hmmm childish a bit maybe, too emotional oh yah. …

With all the whining and complaining it sounds as if she needs a reason to cry and complain. A good old ass warming until she has reason . As for her subs who have written how much they agree with her makes me wonder if this relation is not all cyber or are they brain dead. But all and all she is right about one thing she does sound like a princess does she not?

If a Dominant is not in control of the themselves how can they control any one or thing would be the question I have for her. I realize that the question would just cause her to whine and complain some more so I will ask this . If she thinks that Alt is run by submissives telling their Dominants what to do why does the princess not find another castle to play in? Perhaps a fantasy one where everything is jussst perrrrfect for little girls

A vision of Darklight

Originally posted 2006-05-25 14:38:13.

He does a good job of summing things up:

Alex Birch
I am a retired I.T. consultant who writes spanking stories and runs a lively spanking web forum called FLAMING CHEEKS. If you click on the link above you will then be able to access, and then hopefully, join ‘FLAMING CHEEKS’ On this blog I have decided to showcase the material of others so none of the stories here are mine. My own work is available on the ASSTR web site to which there are links within the blog. I am delighted to say that I have met some of my best and dearest friends as a result of my spanking interests so all this spanking activity is a labour of love for me!!.

A Taste of the Birch

Originally posted 2008-02-23 18:59:49.

A master writes of the obligations that come with being the recipient of a slave’s unconditional adoration:

I am often in a position where my slave explains to me, that she believes me to be smart, cunning and the best possible choice she could have made in her life, that I cannot possibly fail her and that all the doubts I have about my abilities are unfounded, that indeed I have become her, very personal, god.

While that is flattering and your first reaction might be to puff your chest and strut around proudly like a peacock you should stop and think. As a Master you need to continually improve your skills and the way you interact with your slave. You need to understand not only what you are doing but how you are doing it and in what way it will influence your slave.

Her Owner…

Originally posted 2008-04-22 17:00:43.

A master fetish photographer’s blog with samplings of his works.

On occasion I’ll discover an image from an old photoshoot that for one reason or another didn’t catch my attention initially. I was going through some of the stuff I shot for the Stockroom in the Czech Republic a few years ago and found the following image which now I really like a lot.

The Artistic Pursuits of Steve Diet Goedde

Originally posted 2007-02-24 11:18:42.