Category — By Women

Red Velvet’s profile:

Yes i really AM a Black woman. i am a masochistic submissive who will perpetually find herself in service to a sadistic Dom. He makes all of this make sense. Because of the experiences i’ve had, i’m quite positive that when and if i marry it will be to someone that is my Dom/Daddy/Master whatever you want to call it. That may not be anytime soon but 24/7 is what i’m looking for in the future.

Inside the Red Velvet Rope

Originally posted 2006-05-22 05:09:12.

There are the least expected blogs:

This site is about me, a 30 year old bi-polar submissive. It is my corner of the web, where I can post thoughts and general other things in my blog, or I can show off stitching projects and artwork. It’s my haven. What I write here, or display here is my business, seriously you don’t like it, there’s a little X in the top corner of your screen, use it, no skin off my nose.

Whilst I do not post porn, and I do not refer to sex on a daily basis, I do use D/s terms pretty much daily. I am a submissive, if this offends you then you won’t like this blog. I refer to my Partner as Master, if this offends you then again you won’t like my blog. Some may come here to check my cross stitching projects. If you would like to see that, but do not wish to read such terms as Master or slave, then feel free to check out the Cross Stitching link to the right which is purely pictures and current progress.

The Stitching Submissive

Originally posted 2006-06-02 05:53:38.

Subbie bunny has a charming Live Journal. Like many submissive women she struggles to feel that she is offering authentic submission. And has fun:

He slaps my face often enough to make me really want to beg for the face-slapping scene i now play near-nightly in my head. (He hates begging, by the way, so i would never.) but sometimes, the steps W/we take and the lines we cross surprise even U/us. the other day, He did something new… while playing around, He was slapping me and pinching at my cheeks and face, backhanding a few. suddenly, He closed His hand into a fist, and playfully executed a perfect super slow-mo (read:painless)punch to my cheek an inch or so below and outside my eye. it took a moment to register that He had just punched my face. albeit lightly, almost barely-there, but he punched me in the face. and suddenly, my stomach twisted, because i liked it

The Warren

Originally posted 2007-07-29 11:44:34.

Ling does a lovely job of capturing some of the emotional complications of submission. Particularly that easy trap: overcomplicating being pleasing.

Lately i have been trying to learn not to overthink my tasks. Once things are a rule there is no discussion….it is a rule! At that point i need to recognize that i should no longer think about the task or rule….just act. As a sub it isn’t my place to question everything Cloud presents before me. It is my job to listen and act according to what tasks are placed before me. A rock doesn’t think….it just is. i know i should think less and act more.

i think i could learn more about stillness from a rock. i am fidgety and i think i really gain something from learning to be still. To enjoy being still and appreciate the stillness of life. there are times when i should sit back and watch…not always act. To be still and appreciate what is going on around me. There is a certain peace associated with stillness….one that would be nice to find in myself.

well like i said i am learning…..i am not very comfortable with meditation. i feel like i am not doing it right…..actually i am probably overthinking it…..hehehe. i need to just sit and enjoy the peace. i need to stop trying to find this great meaning to everything and just appreciate the silence….the stillness….the peace of meditation. Why is this so hard for me? i honestly am trying…..patience isn’t my strong point.

Fledgeling’s Journey

Originally posted 2006-05-25 13:13:51.

From sub lyn’s About page (I wish more bloggers had those):

This new turn of events has been an amazing journey for both us. Neither of us has ever been in a D/s relationship before, so we are feeling our way along together. But I love him more now than ever before, a love so deep and so real that I am constantly surprised by it. We are closer than ever before as well, which brings with it its own complications. We are both married, and in open relationships with our spouses, each “primaries” to them and “secondaries” to one another. But we live in different cities and see each other much less often than we’d like (thus the title of this blog). Lately we’ve managed to be together quite a bit, but that can’t last, and we are trying to figure out how to maintain and grow what we have begun amidst the difficulty of distance and distraction.

Long-Distance Sub

Originally posted 2008-02-25 19:04:51.

Daddy’s girl is a woman in a vanilla marriage who also has a long distance D/s Daddy/girl relationship:

You can try to drop the kink and live vanilla, but is it satisfying? Its not for me. That is why I have Daddy. He knows and understands me and what I need more completely than my husband. I love my husband, but I know now that he will never be everything I need. So now I am forced to choose: my unsatisfying vanilla life with my husband, or my satisfying life of adultery with Daddy.

I really wish I could “do the right thing” and go back to my husband and drop the kink forever and life a “normal” vanilla life and be happy. That last part is the problem, happiness. The last time I tried this way, I wasn’t really very happy at all. I felt like I was hiding a big secret and constantly wearing a mask so he wouldn’t see what I needed. Daddy saw through the mask like it wasn’t even there. He gives me everything I need and I am so grateful for everything He does for me. But the fact remains, I am married. I just wish I didn’t have to choose.

The Life of a Submissive Girl

Originally posted 2009-01-11 11:00:08.

Ree writes about the sexist cultural assumptions some people bring to M/f D/s:

I love LDD. I love it that Rowan disciplines me. I love how feminine being submissive to him makes me feel. However, I cannot agree that I want or need Rowan’s discipline because of my feminine urges. I do not need correction because I am female. I am not more inclined towards destructive misbehavior than some men. I do realize that I make mistakes on a regular basis and that my mistakes go be given as evidence that even the most intelligent, articulate, and college educated women are prone to destructive misbehaviors. However, men can and do engage in destructive misbehavior. For example, men are 8 to 1 more likely to commit a violent crime, and thus are incarcerated a great deal more often than women.

Using my mistakes and pointing them out as if they somehow could represent all women is a sexist and classical argument that society takes part in. Women have made some progress and are working towards equal rights in society. Using an individual’s actions to justify categorizing people into boxes is also a classical argument of people who wish to keep certain races in “their place.” If I can point out that the little black or African American boy in a classroom is misbehaving and then I treat all the black/African American children differently and point out their shortcomings – soon those children that I have treated poorly will begin to appear to fall into my unjust categorization (through their own rebellious actions or just because other observers cannot see past my view point).

I do not believe that there is something natural in female submission. To do so would be to exclude male submissives and female Dommes from D/s, which is unfair. Anyone who participates in this sort of alternative lifestyle faces criticisms and we should realize that if we exclude male subs and female Dommes we are weakening ourselves and becoming something none of us like, hypocritical, judgmental, and unwilling to accept a life style alternative to our own.

Now you are saying, but Ree, you yourself have said how submitting to Rowan makes you feel feminine. Let me explain. Society still tends to think of women as naturally submissive and thus connect femininity to submissive behavior. I am a product of my environment among other things. And, just because being submissive makes me feel feminine does not mean that all women feel this way, that should be quite obvious. People involved in this life type of life style who say that all women want to submit or that submitting is for the good of all women, could not be more wrong. History, stories of woman battering, sexism, and the like all say that this is not the case. No one wants to have one aspect, major though it might be, define who they should be and what they should want and feel. Criminologists have been trying to understand why the crime rates are so different for men and women. Many recent theories of criminology have pointed to the ridged and fragile nature of masculinity that might be one cause of inflated male criminal activity.

Cease Resistance: Spanking Ree

Originally posted 2006-07-19 09:18:38.