Category — M/f Couples

Slut writes about the importance of enforced chastity in her D/s relationship:

Orgasm denial is important to me for a few reasons. The first and foremost reason is that it is something Sir requires of me. It’s important to me to keep any commitment that I make to Sir. The rule that I am not allowed to cum without permission is especially important to me because it was the first one Sir gave to me. It holds a special meaning for me because even before we agreed to be seriously dating he had given me the rule that was standard for him to give in the beginning of a long term D/s relationship. That meant a lot to me then as it still does now.

My orgasm denial is the foundation on which everything else has been built. If I were to purposefully break that rule that would be an indication to me that I am unable to submit to Sir in the way that he requires. Being in denial is a persistent reminder of who maintains control in our relationship. It’s also a persistent reminder that I am his and that pleasure is his to give or withhold as he wishes. I really can’t imagine, nor would I want it to be any other way. I like that this is something I’ve only ever given to Sir. That it’s part of me that no one else has had.

Sir and Slut

Originally posted 2009-01-07 11:43:03.

A rare couple’s blog:

Sex with Sean and Mel. A blog following our journey into non-conventional forms of sex… Mostly dominant/submissive(S&M) play… all in the name of “FUN”!

S&M Blog

Originally posted 2006-05-22 05:19:38.

I’m fairly sure that I first ran across Dave when he had a Blogspot blog and remember him migrating to TypePad. Now he and his wife have created that rarity – a couple’s blog – with its own domain.

Dave’s love for his wife and clarity have always impressed me.

In the entry I quote he tells of giving her an unremovable permanent symbol of ownership.

To cut a long story short, Am now sports a sterling silver chain around her right ankle, but instead of being fastened with a clasp the final link at one end of the chain has been split, the chain ends joined, and then the link has been silver-soldered closed again with a tiny jeweller’s brazing torch.

We wrapped her ankle in wet cloth to keep the chain off her ankle, and put a heat-proof board between that and the chain below the link that needed to be soldered. Those precautions in place, I was able to solder the link closed without burning her. (*)

We’re both slightly in shock that we actually did it but feeling decidedly happy that we did. …

Our Kinky Blog

Originally posted 2006-09-03 11:58:10.

Celebrated BDSM educator, Master Jim, talks about how things have been changing:

As I have recounted here before, my first discussions about M/s were with slave marsha. There was no one else to talk with. The few leather events that existed at the time at best might have one panel discussion on M/s. In fact, one of the first of these panels that I attended was made up entirely of members not currently in M/s relationships and at least two of the panel members stated they no longer had any interest in M/s!

Today, those of us who live as Masters and slaves have a growing community open to us. There are numerous events that focus on Mastery and slavery, and many of those that do not focus on it nevertheless offer a significant number of seminars on M/s topics. As a result, we now have gone far beyond “M/s 101″ and are discussing the deeper issues that surround living as a Master and a slave. As an example, at South Plains Leatherfest-International Master/slave Weekend 2006, I and slave marsha offered a seminar entitled “If You Meet the Master on the Road, Kill Him!” This was a new seminar that focused on the philosophical underpinnings of a M/s relationship — and even though we included some practical elements on structuring and maintaining a M/s relationship, it was much more theoretical than our usual offerings and I was not sure how the audience would respond to it. Much to my surprise, the seminar was well received.

So where does that leave us? As an M/s community are we now at a point where we should move M/s out of the dungeon and into the rarefied area of Aristotelian discourse? Where the only pain that is experienced is the headache we get from trying to understand each other’s discussions?

Edgeliving: Master Jim and slave marsha

Originally posted 2006-06-08 06:28:51.

Both Mr. C. and Contance write some fairly in depth posts. It was tough to chose an example. But I greatly like this one in which Mr. C. writes about the serious responsibility of being Head of Household:

I think that my record leading Constance through practical problems, and there have been many of them, has been a good one. My record of leading her through emotional problems has not been so good but I work hard at trying to understand what is going on and learning to deal with them more effectively. Here is a generalisation, something that any potential HoH needs to understand, you will never have to show greater commitment or ever work harder than when you take your girl under your protective wing, the rewards will never be greater either. Just remember, good and bad, thick or thin, you are the man and the responsibility rests with you, there is nowhere to pass the buck to.

My Dabble in the Middle End

Originally posted 2009-01-13 23:10:32.

D/s blogs by couples are rare. This one, written by Tea and Naranja is very, very beautiful.

Right now, because we are in a place where we are still “in talks,” he is asking nothing difficult of me, nothing edgy or unusual. He is being especially kind and gentle with me. His self-restraint is palpable between us. But still I want to squirm out of his reach, avoid his eyes, shut out his voice. I am fighting it, fighting him, fighting myself. Whatever it is he asks, I don’t want to do it. Except I do, very much.

I know he is pursuing me, tracking me… waiting. And I don’t like it. I’m not used to being the prey. I don’t know this part of him – this hunter. It used to be easy to hide from him, to shapeshift, to sidestep him – easy because he was content not to hunt… and because I had become too accustomed to being left un-hunted.

But he has changed. He has developed a hunter’s canny hunger, a tracker’s sense of motion in the dark. He is listening in a deeper way, slipping his knowing into my head… he is learning me. Everyday, he notices something new. Everyday, he finds the little somethings I’ve squirreled away.

I am running out of territory. He knows too much. I feel… vulnerable, yes. But more, I feel without defense, without hope of a last minute “out.” I feel, simply, at his mercy. And when I admit this to myself, I feel, acutely, the panic of imminent invasion, but also the promise of completion.

Tea and Oranges

Originally posted 2006-06-20 11:01:16.

It is always good to find a couple blog. From one of several entries about their very intense “play contract weekend:”

Sir let me rest for an hour or so, and then it was time for the grand finale of our play contract weekend: full body plastic wrap. He led me into the bedroom and took off my cuffs and collar. He positioned a 6ft bar against my back and started wrapping. Around and around and around he wrapped, tighter and tighter. First my legs, my waist, my arms, my breasts, my neck, and finally my face and head. He left my mouth and nose uncovered so I could breathe, but he covered the rest of my face and head with plastic wrap. I was completely immobile. I could shuffle my feet a little, but that was it. He put the red collar around my neck when he was finished.

While he was wrapping me up, Sir positioned the Hitachi on my clit and had me close me legs around it to hold it in place. When I was totally wrapped up, he turned it on. It felt so good, the vibrations. I tried to wiggle around to avoid the direct stimulation, but I couldn’t move in my plastic cocoon. He cut holes around my breasts to free them and clipped on the nipples clamps. The stimulation from the Hitachi and nipple clamps was too much and I came. Sir held me up as the orgasm shook my body. After several more orgasms, he cut me free and we spent the last hour of the contract resting together.

Everything Goes

Originally posted 2006-07-09 08:08:04.