An Extreme Owner of Women

Extreme Owner does not mince words. Here he explains dealing with disappointment in his property:

But this morning, my military training and ability to project came to play – I had to verbally slap her with the words of my disappointment, my wishes and my end of tolerance for the actions. I could see her reel from the words and she silently went upstairs to get dressed for work.

What happened next is, in my opinion, one of the crucial aspects of Ownership. How to bring my property back to me once I’ve done major correction. I believe there’s a tendency to either persist a correction or to overreact and oversoothe after correction. It’s a fine line – the goal of bringing back is to establish that I’m done with the situation, that she is not worthless or completely useless – that yes, she fucked up, but that I know she will do better next time, because she will. The positive reinforcement is like a drink of the coldest water after a long walk in the hottest deserts – it sets in concrete her mindset that she WILL obey, she WILL make me happy.

Mindset, always the mindset, is key. What do I want? My property to do my wishes. How do I get to that point? By correction and direction. My girl left this morning with firm resolve, and I could see it.

An extreme owner of women

Originally posted 2006-10-22 13:18:39.