Cease Resistance: Spanking Ree

Ree writes about the sexist cultural assumptions some people bring to M/f D/s:

I love LDD. I love it that Rowan disciplines me. I love how feminine being submissive to him makes me feel. However, I cannot agree that I want or need Rowan’s discipline because of my feminine urges. I do not need correction because I am female. I am not more inclined towards destructive misbehavior than some men. I do realize that I make mistakes on a regular basis and that my mistakes go be given as evidence that even the most intelligent, articulate, and college educated women are prone to destructive misbehaviors. However, men can and do engage in destructive misbehavior. For example, men are 8 to 1 more likely to commit a violent crime, and thus are incarcerated a great deal more often than women.

Using my mistakes and pointing them out as if they somehow could represent all women is a sexist and classical argument that society takes part in. Women have made some progress and are working towards equal rights in society. Using an individual’s actions to justify categorizing people into boxes is also a classical argument of people who wish to keep certain races in “their place.” If I can point out that the little black or African American boy in a classroom is misbehaving and then I treat all the black/African American children differently and point out their shortcomings – soon those children that I have treated poorly will begin to appear to fall into my unjust categorization (through their own rebellious actions or just because other observers cannot see past my view point).

I do not believe that there is something natural in female submission. To do so would be to exclude male submissives and female Dommes from D/s, which is unfair. Anyone who participates in this sort of alternative lifestyle faces criticisms and we should realize that if we exclude male subs and female Dommes we are weakening ourselves and becoming something none of us like, hypocritical, judgmental, and unwilling to accept a life style alternative to our own.

Now you are saying, but Ree, you yourself have said how submitting to Rowan makes you feel feminine. Let me explain. Society still tends to think of women as naturally submissive and thus connect femininity to submissive behavior. I am a product of my environment among other things. And, just because being submissive makes me feel feminine does not mean that all women feel this way, that should be quite obvious. People involved in this life type of life style who say that all women want to submit or that submitting is for the good of all women, could not be more wrong. History, stories of woman battering, sexism, and the like all say that this is not the case. No one wants to have one aspect, major though it might be, define who they should be and what they should want and feel. Criminologists have been trying to understand why the crime rates are so different for men and women. Many recent theories of criminology have pointed to the ridged and fragile nature of masculinity that might be one cause of inflated male criminal activity.

Cease Resistance: Spanking Ree

Originally posted 2006-07-19 09:18:38.