Is BDSM Sexual?

From an interesting discussion of a topic that will never die:

Nope, not necessarily.

I don’t do BDSM with my husband. It’s not his kink.

And I’m not sexual with my playpartners, for various reasons, although I
suppose that could happen at some point with someone (probably about the
time those monkeys fly out of Lynn’s butt, xthreadx).

For me, BDSM is sexual in prospect and retrospect; that is, it’s really hot
in fantasy, and it’s what I masturbate to. But I don’t get aroused during
play, and I don’t have sexual thoughts when I play. I go off into a nice,
mostly non-verbal, floating, gigglespace.

This is one of these topics that comes around fairly often. In general, I
think, the most commonly found response is, “For you and many others, it’s
about sex. For some folks, it isn’t. For some folks, it is sometimes but not
others.”

I hereby propose “JanetM’s Extension of Spectrum’s Formulation of Ugol’s
Law”

Is BDSM sexual?

Originally posted 2006-11-24 20:47:08.