Blogs, journals, diaries by folks engaged in some aspect of M/f D/s, DD as lifestyle or play

Irch writes of his amazing online relationship with k:

Have you ever had (I hope you all have had) that experience of pristine sublimity in lovemaking when you swear time is standing still, the earth has stopped turning, the stars are aswim in the sky? That kind of time-stoppage is something I never thought could be achieved in a long-distance online relationship. But turns out you just need to be with the right woman.

The reason this has all come up is that I haven’t had any time online with my delicious k in a number of days now. She’s just moved into a new place and is working on getting her internet hooked up. I was out of town for the whole weekend and pretty preoccupied during that time. We’ve kept in touch with a few phone messages and texts, and I miss her. I crave the intensity of the times when we are online together. But this time, unlike any previous times that we’ve been apart like this, I am completely assured and unanxious, confident. I feel our bond, our connection, as strong and steady as ever.

She belongs to me, always. I know her heart and mind are as full of me as mine are of her. My ownership of her, and the difference I make in her life, don’t diminish or alter over time. If a couple thousand miles don’t change things, why should a few days?

Dominant Seventh

Originally posted 2006-05-27 08:20:36.

I’ve been tardy in reading the sane woman who calls herself Wordslut. An exceptional blog.

Yes, doms have limits, too. They might not fill out detailed multipage questionnaires about them, but they have them just the same.

There are things a dom will not do because he believes they‘re wrong or could cause permanent injury. Things he’s not interested in doing because they simply don’t turn him on. Things he can’t do because he doesn’t know the proper technique. Even — and think about this one for a minute — things he might like to do but choose to avoid because he wants continued submission.

Yes. The dominant, no matter how selfish his motivations, does have to think about what the submissive can and will accept — not about what she wants, necessarily, but at minimum about what she can and will tolerate. It’s not that she has all the power, and in fact, over time in a relationship, she will likely submit to more and more and protest less and less. But she can, in fact, reach a limit.

Even if she is defined as a slave, if her master values the services she provides, he can’t go beyond what she’s able to tolerate.

Those limits mean that sub helps to set the meaning of “anything” by choosing her dominant. …

hopelessly bad

Originally posted 2006-10-31 13:45:14.

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Sensual Service

Originally posted 2006-11-12 16:44:27.

I’m glad to see Peter Tuper has his own domain:

I was lamenting how hard it was to study the works of Leopold von Sacher-Masoch, at least for me, as Venus in Furs is almost his only work readily available in English. I argued that this was because Sacher-Masoch was the victim of a very effective literary character assassination at the unwitting hand of Richard von Krafft-Ebing, who coined the term “masochism”. As a result, Sacher-Masoch, the next big thing in Middle European literature, publisher, journalist, historian, progressive, is known to later generations only as a lunatic and a pervert. His jilted wife came along and added “abusive schmuck” to the list. A literary figure was lost, almost entirely without biographies, and it’s only some quirk of fate that Venus in Furs was not consigned to the same untranslated, out of print limbo as his other works.

The History of BDSM

Originally posted 2008-02-04 15:16:37.

The women featured in the Fetishes episode of The Secret Lives of Women has a blog:

A slave’s relationship with her Master should be full of support, empowerment and enjoyment of each other. And I am very happy to say that mine is!

The relationship should be honest, open, loving, respectful and giving. I have felt a power exchange of sorts that continues to grow between us as well although i may be wrong. The more I feel I am able to surrender to Master in training, the more power I give to him – he takes from me… and the more I feel almost like I am being drawn into his power. Then, as we kind of blend together, I feel almost as if Master is returning that power 3 fold back to me. The pain of extreme brutal/physical training at Master’s hand releases the endorphins I so crave to feel, putting me in a kind of blissful state with him which contains a sense of power for me, maybe Master as well? Being able to take the pain for Master for his pleasure, to endure it as long as I can, to be brought past my limits by my Master then fills me with even more power as i give my surrender.

The sexual aspect of our relationship is another thing. It is amazing: sensual, loving, brutal and sadistic all in one. And can go for hours and hours at a time, lol.

And then there is the love we share for each other, which is so intense it scares us both. We have also captivated those around us unknowingly simply by the sometimes long gazing and knowing looks we exchange between us. We only recently realized that others can see the obvious love we share and the intensity of it as well. My favorite thing is to wake in Master’s arms to him showering my face and eyes with sweet little kisses!

I do not see that a Master, showing his love and devotion for his slave, is a sign of weakness at all!!!

We spend lots of casual times together outside of training as well. Master and I attend demos on the lifestyle together, coffee’s, munches and other socials and events. We have even been in stage shows for public BDSM events as well. But, we can also be found meeting to simply have drinks or coffee, talk or hole-up to watch movies on TV. Master will also go out with my husband for a round of pool, etc.

Alene’s blog

Originally posted 2006-08-19 06:21:22.

I’ve tried to sum up what kink, fetish – owner worship – means in my life.

This effort is as much an attempt to help others sum up their feelings.

Doesn’t matter if you are Old Guard, Goth Domme, Lifestyle Master or Slave.

My hope is that you’ll publish your own list (or if you don’t write online you’ll leave your list as a comment).

I’d like to see this reach out to others, both dominant and submissive persons.

Read: 10 Best Things About BDSM

Originally posted 2006-11-18 19:11:58.

Extreme Owner does not mince words. Here he explains dealing with disappointment in his property:

But this morning, my military training and ability to project came to play – I had to verbally slap her with the words of my disappointment, my wishes and my end of tolerance for the actions. I could see her reel from the words and she silently went upstairs to get dressed for work.

What happened next is, in my opinion, one of the crucial aspects of Ownership. How to bring my property back to me once I’ve done major correction. I believe there’s a tendency to either persist a correction or to overreact and oversoothe after correction. It’s a fine line – the goal of bringing back is to establish that I’m done with the situation, that she is not worthless or completely useless – that yes, she fucked up, but that I know she will do better next time, because she will. The positive reinforcement is like a drink of the coldest water after a long walk in the hottest deserts – it sets in concrete her mindset that she WILL obey, she WILL make me happy.

Mindset, always the mindset, is key. What do I want? My property to do my wishes. How do I get to that point? By correction and direction. My girl left this morning with firm resolve, and I could see it.

An extreme owner of women

Originally posted 2006-10-22 13:18:39.